See-Saws

I'm reading this book, and it was talking about see-saws and it made me remember how much it hurts when someone gets off the other end. As long as it is the two of you just going up and down, each controlling the descent and ascent with your legs, then you can handle it. But if one person pushes up to hard, and you come smacking into the ground, there's that laughing pain, which penetrates from the core of you up to your teeth which are likely clamped together and the ringing in your ears soon follows. And it makes you want to laugh and cry at the same time. Not because there's anything funny...just because that's what you do.
Relationships are like that...just this finely balanced see-saw. Sometimes you can go fast, and sometimes you can go slow, but if you have ever hit bottom, it makes you definitely want to slow down a little and brace yourself even more.
It made me happy TrTl--I saw your last blog and your areas of everyday improvement & I finished reading the book best friends, and I was tooling around my apartment and it hit me...it doesn't matter you know? it doesn't matter what happens in our lives..so TrtlHead (that's what I call Rabbi to be) becomes a rabbi and you have six kids....and maybe i become a statistic of a failed business or whatever, I kill someone, it doesn't matter...we've passed some hurdle..we have forever, in a way that only our kids will have from us. I just had this realization...men and relationships, they can fail you..who knows...the truth is no one does. The fact of whether a relationship will last that can't be determined with any accuracy...but us, we will be friends no matter what...It seems we've passed the point that we were trying to reach the bottom. You know when you are little, you just want to get to the bottom of the pool, so you struggle against gravity and buoyancy and reach for the bottom, and your lungs hurt, and your ears hurt, and then when you get there, you push up to escape it as fast as possible, to reach the air above the water, and you don't have the energy you had on the way down, but you have triumph and your legs to propel you where you want to go. And you will reach the top of the water...or at least you always have....that's where we are...we aren't trying to reach the bottom...in our friendship we've started rising...you know? The fear of what would be, or whether something would break it...its gone. I mean some of the intensity is gone too...and it's ok. Its a little more relaxing that way. I think I would take solidity for excitement.